All Over the Place

Sometimes my blog is a place to vent or to just "talk-aloud" about something. Thus it is probably really boring to you guys, but needs to be done for me ;-)

First the random - so there are a handful of key people from my past that helped shape who I am. Sadly / gladly I am not in touch with the majority of them anymore. One of them returned to my dreams last night. The first time in YEARS. How weird is that. And to make it worse I NEVER remember my dreams. This one is replaying in my head like a movie. I am going to have to do some intervention prayer on myself!!

Now the vent. Going to try and give you a brief background summary so my "vent" will make sense. Dan's brother offered him some appliances for our business. Dan said sure and he and his brother went and picked them up and took them over to the apartments and installed them. A few days later sister-in-law called Dan and called him a thief and said she was going to call cops on him... Dan was like totally what? They have always been close and he knew he didn't steal anything. She kept on and it was awful. Evidently they weren't Dan's brother's to give. He just knew they weren't using them and couldn't use them and they would essentially be useless so why not donate to business. But he didn't "clear it" with his wife... Well Dan got the anger, etc.

What makes it so bad is we spend alot of time with them or rather did. She has been totally HATEFUL to Dan. I tried calling and texting her and asked could we just talk about it. She won't respond. Several weeks have gone by and the issue has just kind of gone stagnant. We haven't seen or talked to her though. Yesterday Dan needed to ask her something and to talk with her dad (who he does work with randomly). The dad doesn't have a cell and he happened to be with her yesterday afternoon. So anyway - Dan calls and she answers and he's like hi Jenny - would you mind if I talk to your dad? She hung up. He called back a couple of times and she would answer and hang up. Really... are you 13??

I have been pretty angry since this issue started - indignant really. And after seeing how much it actually hurts Dan it makes me even angrier. I am not crazy about Dan's family, shame on me. I however do understand family value and love, etc. Dan loves his brother and vice versa so I want to do what I can to support that. I have gotten angry over the years and usually just excuse myself so as not to act like a butt :-) The sister-in-law and I get along. Also get along with her family. We make them welcome, feed them tons of time and serve them (they are not the help out kind of guests), we have given them money, furniture, bedding, clothes, etc. We are their bank and have loaned them tons of money that is still not paid back. We are financing their vehicle. We provide the tools and stuff for their repairs, etc. to their house and rental property. We have taken them on vacation with us - with zero contribution from them. We welcome her daugther and grandson into our home and into our vacation with grace... And you know what - who cares about the tit for tat. I don't, but it sure popped into my mind since this has happened. (I better pray about that.) And you know what else - sister-in-law has a serious medical condition and sometimes brother is not very empathetic and all that toward her condition and taking care of her. Dan will check in with her and see how she is doing and he will talk to brother and "get onto him" about taking better care of her, etc.

And furthermore Dan is constantly told he is not a true Christian and he is going to hell because he doesn't go to church where they do and has to run a business not a charity.... We try to tune this out and just ignore it. We don't lecture them and try not to judge because its not our job! Well now this issue is making me judgemental because I'm like you call yourselves the "better" Christians.. you are accusing, not forgiving, etc. etc. I don't think those attributes are very Christ-like. And it makes me even madder that  am being judgemental LOL.

So I am going to pray for me and Dan and for them. I don't want to turn into that kind of person and I don't want to be so weak that this issue would bring me down.

Thanks for listening!!!